Wednesday, December 28, 2011

I Have Been There

I got a phone call from a dear friend of mine. She feels like her whole world is falling apart. She is scared. She doesn't know what to do. She is in a valley. She came to me for help and advice because she knows that I can relate.

I have four words for her: I HAVE BEEN THERE.

I've been there when you feel like your whole world is crashing down.
I've been there when you don't know where or who to turn to.
I've been there when you are angry at God.
I've been there when you feel like you have lost all faith in God.
I've been there when it takes everything you have to get out of bed in the morning.
I've been there when you cry yourself to sleep.
I've been there when you feel like you have lost everything.
I've been there when you feel like you have no friends.
I've been there when you don't want to leave the house.
I've been there when you just want silence.
I've been there when silence is lonely.
I've been there when you want to hide.
I've been there when you want to keep the shades drawn.
I've been there when you don't want to hear "God has a plan."

It is true, the valley sucks. It is difficult. I'm not going to lie and say that it is easy. It's not. It is horrible.

The Good News is that Jesus has been there too. The Good News is that there is sun/Son in the valley. God is still on His throne.

I will be there for you, dear friend, in the valley and on the mountaintop!

Sunday, December 11, 2011

Ironic Life of Swimming

Athletics were a big part of my life while I was growing up. I swam competitively for 13 years, ran track for 4 years, and played other various sports like soccer and volleyball in between. I had the constant aroma of chlorine on my skin, and when I wasn't dripping with pool water, I was dripping with sweat from other sports. I helped to coach swimming and also taught private swim lessons for kids.

I felt more comfortable in the water than on land.

I remember getting up in what seemed like the middle of the night to get to early morning swim practice before school started. The sky was dark and I had to brush the snow off my little Honda Accord.

I remember walking outside after long evening swim practices, the sky was dark and snow would be on the ground. My hair literally froze.

I remember getting tan lines on my back during summer swim.

I also remember my crazy eating habits. Unfortunately, this is not what you might think. I didn't consume extra calories to make up for the amount that I would burn off. In fact, I don't know how my body survived and how I could literally walk and stand up. I wasn't anorexic or bulimic but I was concerned about my body.

This was my daily menu:
Maybe one granola bar in the morning
Two granola bars at lunch

What?! Three granola bars?! How could I even swim?

I didn't want to eat an orange because it "felt heavy" in my hand so I thought that I would gain the weight of the orange.


Sometimes on Fridays, I would join some friends for lunch and hit up the local bakery and eat a plain bagel, but that was just because it was Friday. Other days I would join my friends at restaurants for lunch but just eat my two granola bars.

I had some sort of messed up idea of nutrition (despite what my parents told me and what my health class taught me).

So, what is the moral of the story? This was bad. Don't do this. It isn't healthy.

Saturday, December 10, 2011

The Emotional Struggle

While writing out my story, I was forced to think of various seasons of my life from childhood until present. A reoccurring theme seemed to be an emotional struggle, even from an early age.
Why? I don't know. It just was.

I remember when I was in second grade, I laid on the dining room floor and wrote out with pencil on sheets of white lined paper "I hate myself" over a hundred times.

Why do I remember this? I can recall this moment as clear as I can recall family vacations to Mexico and trips to Disney World.

Sometimes memories have a purpose. Now I just have to figure out why I remember this and how to turn it into something beautiful.

Beauty from ashes.

Tuesday, December 6, 2011

Welcome Home

I came home exhausted from a long day, and as I pulled into the driveway, I saw the girls scurry into position.

Upon entering our porch, I saw the girls sitting on the tile floor by a vase of beautiful pink flowers and a card that was made out to "Mom."

The card read:

"Thinking of you,
believing in you,
standing by you,
praying for you...
...not just now,
but always."

Mariah wrote: We Love you! and we are Proud of you!

Then Jerry wrote a message about how proud he is of me and his appreciation for my hard work and dedication to our family and to my new job.

I teared up. I love my family!

Wednesday, November 23, 2011

Lacking Confidence

As I posted a few days ago, I am starting a new job. I'm nervous.

I am honored and humbled that someone saw my gifts and talents and wanted to put me and (and the gifts and talents) to work. I'm apprehensive. I'm a little anxious. I am unsure. Can I really do this?!

I am lacking the confidence right now that I can successfully carry out my job of creating curriculum and teaching developmental classes to parents and kids. Instead of a 5 Hour Energy Boost drink, I need to create a 5 Hour Confidence Boost drink.

Thinking positive thoughts. I CAN do this!

(I wonder if it is alright if I just smile and nod and act like I know what I am doing).

Sunday, November 20, 2011

New Season

I am entering a new season, a new chapter, in my life. I am excited, yet nervous, about a new opportunity as I venture out of being a full time, stay at home mom. I am beginning a part time job creating curriculum and teaching developmental classes to parents and children.

Seasons in life, are just that. I have enjoyed my time as a stay at home mom, but now a new season is beginning and I am excited for the changes.

My life "as I know it" is about to drastically change.

Thursday, October 27, 2011

Tales from Motherhood

Some of my ups and downs of being a parent can be found here: Raising Three Girls.

Tuesday, October 25, 2011

The Emotional Mask

I bet you didn't know that I am a Semi-Professional Emotional Masker. It is true. I started perfecting this talent during my childhood and I think I am pretty darn good at it.

I am uncertain as to why I started to hide my emotions. I guess revealing true feelings is a risk. It made/makes me feel vulnerable. (Kinda like blogging).

It was/is a rare moment for me to shed tears in front of others or for me to talk about what REALLY mattered in my life. In the past, I have started to open up and share my emotions to close friends, and sadly, for some reason, the friends didn't stick around. This, in turn, made me put on my mask again. Hiding is much safer, and I guess I care too much about what other people think of me.

Talking about the weather is always a safe topic of conversation. You won't lose friends over the weather.

Sadly, the question of "How are you?" nowadays is more of a statement than a question. I, too, fall into this trap. 'I am fine.' 'I am doing well, thank you.' No, I am not going to pour out every little detail of my life to strangers, but I need to be more honest with the "how are you" question with close friends, and even family.

Is this blog post risky for me? Yes. (and I am stalling to hit the publish button)
Do I care? Maybe a little.

I have begun to take small steps in dismantling my semi-professional talent, and guess what?! It feels pretty good!

Sunday, October 23, 2011


I have been writing out my life journey, or attempting to.

I write. I delete. I get stuck. I write. I stop.

I have never done this before and it has been really refreshing. It also reveals of all the pieces that God has put together, in His order, in His time, and in the way that He wants.


This week, my nightly task is to finish my story, up to current day. I started from the beginning, but I know that after I reach the point of current day, my story will not end there.

I think I will conclude typing out my story with this: ...

Thursday, October 13, 2011

I Stand in Awe

I took this picture this week. This is the view from the street that we live on. We get to see this EVERY DAY! Words cannot describe the beauty and the picture doesn't do it much justice.

I never want to take this view for granted!

Monday, October 10, 2011

A Marriage Commitment

Over 10 years ago, Jerry and I said "I do" in front of God, our family, and our friends. It was on this date, that we began a commitment, not only to God but to each other as well. We committed to read a chapter out of the Bible EVERY night and pray together.

We began doing devotions together since our wedding night and have not missed one night since then.

Am I bragging? No.

I want to be an encouragement to other married couples. I want to emphasize the importance of placing God in the center of our/your marriage.

This nightly task has not always been easy. It takes effort.

Doing devotions together has proved to be an amazing time that Jerry and I spend together, we read the Bible, we discuss the chapter, and then we take turns praying.

If there are nights when we are in separate locations, due to vacations, conference, etc, or if there is a night when we don't go to bed at the same time, we still read the same chapter and pray individually.

What an amazing way to end the day! It is near impossible to go to bed angry when you read the Bible and pray together. Jerry and I don't have a perfect marriage, but doing devotions together can only strengthen our relationship.

My dear friends, I challenge you to make a commitment to your spouse and to God to read the Bible and pray as a married couple. It is never too late to start a new rhythm, a rhythm that will soon become a healthy habit of the heart.

Thursday, October 6, 2011


I am really beginning to feel that God can use my story for His glory! This is a huge step for me, as I can be a quiet introvert. It is a scary thought.

All of my ups and downs of the past 31 years can be turned into something beautiful.

My life is a mosaic of broken pieces coming together to form a masterpiece.

God can restore. God can redeem.

Monday, October 3, 2011


I need to take a deep breath. Life has been a whirlwind lately.

Monday, September 12, 2011

I Don't Talk Much

Someone called me and asked me to think and pray about being a keynote speaker at a women's conference. Considering I don't tell my story much, this might be a problem. :)

I do have a story. It is 31 years in the making.

I am working up some courage...

Monday, August 29, 2011


Tonight I am feeling a little uneasy about something. Not exactly sure what, just a feeling.

I looked up the word "unease" on

Definition: restlessness
Synonyms: agitation, antsiness, anxiety, bustle, disquiet, disquietude, disturbance, edginess, excitability, fitfulness, fretfulness, hurry, inconstancy, inquietude, insomnia, instability, jitters, jumpiness, movement, nervousness, restiveness, transience, turbulence, turmoil, uneasiness, unrest, unsettledness, worriedness

Definition: anxiety
Synonyms: all-overs, angst, ants in pants, anxiousness, apprehension, botheration, butterflies, care, concern, disquiet, disquietude, distress, doubt, downer, dread, fidgets, fretfulness, jitters, misgiving, mistrust, nail-biting, needles, nervousness, restlessness, shivers, solicitude, uncertainty, uneasiness, watchfulness, worriment, worry

Wow, not sure if that helps, but thanks for all the synonyms.

I need to reassure myself that it is ok to "feel." I am learning how to "feel" again.

Sunday, August 28, 2011

This is What it is All About

A few times a week, my husband works with a gentleman that has autism. My husband explains this relationship as 'a friend for whom he cares' rather than someone he 'takes care of.' This experience has been a blessing to my husband, but also to me. It has been amazing to watch this relationship blossom and grow as this young man has become a part of our family but also a part of our church family.

Each week, he has a captivating smile and a monotone song to share (along with a new Matchbox toy car: today he had a new red corvette), but today was a little different. After our church service, we had a baptism service down by a local river. My husband had the privilege of baptizing his friend for whom he cares, and tears filled everyone's eyes, including the young man's mother, as she applauded the occasion.

It was an amazing moment that I will not soon forget.

Saturday, August 27, 2011

An Old Prayer

I am finding that God does answer prayer.
What I didn't know what that He was listening to my honest, humble prayer over 12 years ago when I quietly asked to become a pastor's wife.


Yup, you read that right. When I was in high school, I prayed about this calling...and God listened.

Never in my wildest dreams would have thought I would be in the ministry. Never in my wildest dreams would I have ever thought that I would be listening to my husband through the floorboards of the basement rehearsing his sermon. Never in my wildest dreams would I have thought that God would somehow use ME!

How He is using me...well that is up for discussion. I have a story. I am starting to become inspired.

Sunday, July 31, 2011


I have been reading other blogs with deeper thoughts and more transparency, but me, not so much.

I have a difficult time letting down my "wall" and sharing emotions. It is safer to be vague.

I like to be safe.

Friday, July 22, 2011



*I organize the dirty dishes in the sink so it doesn't look like there are so many dirty dishes and then I can wait a little longer to wash them
*I leave a little toilet paper on the roll so I don't have to change the roll
*I leave a small piece of cake in the pan so I don't have to wash the pan
*I put the laundry through another fluff cycle do I don't have to fold it right away
*I kick crumbs or dirt under the couch so I don't have to vacuum
*I ignore a small bug in the house so I don't have to kill it
*It is easier to throw something away than to put it in its correct spot (ie: paper clips, rubber bands)

Just so you don't think I am lazy, I don't do this ALL the time...just sometimes.

Friday, June 10, 2011

10 Years!!

Jerry and I celebrated our 10 Year Anniversary yesterday! Wow, 10 years!!

He has always been amazing at planning mystery dates for me and once again, he proved to be successful! Jerry planned out two days of fun and relaxation for us and the only detail he told me was that I had to wear tennis shoes and we had to leave the house promptly at 8:00am.

Our day began with Jerry taking us to a three hour zip line tour through the mountains!! It was more than amazing! Absolutely beautiful.

If you look closely, you can see Jerry in the middle of the zip line.

After our zip line adventure, Jerry planned a picnic for us on the top of a mountain. Romantic! We heard thunder in the distance and saw lightening but we decided to make the hike anyway.

From the top of the mountain, storms surrounded us, but we did not get a drop of rain. Again, beautiful!

After our picnic, we hiked down the mountain and drove to check in at our hotel for the night. We stayed at a fancy, historic hotel called the Grove Park Inn.

We went out to dinner and a movie that night and then after sleeping in the next morning, we enjoyed a relaxing day by the pool in the sunshine.

Someone must really love me! :)

It was an incredible few days with my best friend!

Friday, June 3, 2011

It's That Time of Year Again!

It's National Donut Day!! Time to celebrate my favorite food!!

Actually, the truth is, we don't have any donuts in the house. For real. No sugary fried goodness sitting on the counter tempting me to shove them into my mouth.

I still prefer to spell the word donut instead of doughnut.
I enjoy the cake donuts over the yeast raised ones.
Not a fan of donuts with nuts.
Not a fan of cream filled donuts.
Jelly filled donuts are ok (they are my dad's favorite).
If had to choose white icing over chocolate icing, I choose white.
I don't like to share my donuts.

So, I guess I will celebrate with the rest of the country from afar.


Saturday, May 7, 2011

A Mother's Day Tradition

Seven years ago, my father-in-law started a tradition. Every year for Mother's Day, he would take all four of us girls (two of his girls and two of us 'in laws') shopping for a new dress. All four of us looked forward to this day; time with our father-in-law and time with just the girls.

I remember the first time we all went dress shopping: my father-in-law paced near the dressing room, trying his best to be patient with all of us and we went in and out of the dressing room about 50 times.. and then we needed shoes to go with the new dress so we had to go to the shoe store...and then we needed jewelry to go with the new outfit so we had to go to the jewelry store...and then we were all hungry from shopping so we begged to go out for dinner. :)

We all laughed nonstop and my father-in-law would roll his eyes but really he was loving spending time with all of us girls on our yearly 'date.'

Today, was Mother's Day dress shopping day.
I was sad.
I miss them.
I have been fighting back tears all day. I am glad they had fun but I wished I could have been there to laugh too. I am glad they all got fun new dresses and I wished I could see the dresses in person so I could tell each of my sisters that they look beautiful.

I am blessed with such a great family, that not only is family but are friends too.
I miss you Dad DePoy
I miss you Jenny
I miss you Janelle
I miss you Sara.

On a side note: My father-in-law sends me money so I can go shopping to get a new dress too! Yay!

Friday, April 8, 2011

Dr. Seuss

The other day I was reading to Ambria before nap time. She picked the book "Would You Rather Be a Bullfrog."

The children's book poses a bunch of questions like, would you rather be a cat or a dog, would you rather be tall or short, etc.

I paused when I got to this question: Would you rather be a window or a door?

This is quite a thought provoking question.

Thank you Dr. Seuss.

Thursday, April 7, 2011

Two Blogs

I enjoy posting on my other blog Raising Three Girls better than Sticks and Stones. My thought with having two blogs was one for parenting/kid/mom stuff and the other blog for any other things that don't fall under any of those categories.

I am finding that because I am a mom
and that is what I do
and how I think
and how I live,
it is difficult for me to separate those thoughts.

It is challenging for me to decipher the difference between who I am and what I do.

Wednesday, April 6, 2011

A Little Unsure

Sometimes making a decision is a little difficult for me, big and/or small decisions.

I need to make a decision and be ok with the choice I made.
I can't worry about the choice I made and wonder if it was the right decision.

Not sure if this makes sense, but I am making a decision to post this...and then I will ponder if I should have posted it... :)

Friday, February 25, 2011

I'll Huff, and I'll Puff, and I'll Blow Your House Down

Today has been an extremely windy and blustery day outside, our house is rattling and shaking, and I can almost feel a slight breeze through the closed windows. Ambria and I made an adventure out of going to get the mail and trying to not get blown away! We laughed...

Due to the windy weather, I was thinking about posting a status update on facebook about feeling like the big bad wolf was outside trying to huff and puff and blow our house down, and how it isn't going to work because our house is made of bricks...but then I thought about it more and how people could read into that simple status update. (Because that is what people do, whether their thinking is true or not).

Wow, there are some major parallels with that fairy tale and our life right now. The 'big, bad wolf' will not be able to blow our family, our home, our house, our life down, because it is built upon The Rock. The bullets of criticism and rocks may hurt or attempt to harm our family, our home, our house, and our life, but they will not destroy.

I do recall that at the end of the story (in the version we have on our shelf), the wolf gets killed and the protagonists wins. And I do recall that at the end of the Bible, the good guys win!

Thursday, February 17, 2011

This little light of mine, I'm gonna let it shine,
Let it shine
Let it shine
Let it shine

Wednesday, February 2, 2011

Sorry for Not Posting Lately

Sorry for the lack of blog posts. Find out why when you read Oh the Joys of My One Handed Life on my other blog Raising Three Girls.

P.S. Sign up to "follow" my new blog along with this one so you can find out when I write something new for your reading enjoyment.

Friday, January 7, 2011